Uncomfortable Endings for New Beginnings!

If you want to create real change the time is NOW!

IN READING THIS ARTICLE, I'M ASKING YOU TO GET A LITTLE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE TRUTH. ARE YOU WILLING TO TAKE THAT LEAP?

WITHOUT LETTING GO OF THINGS THAT NO LONGER SERVE YOU - RELATIONSHIPS, HABITS, ACTIVITIES, POSSESSIONS AND LIMITING BELIEFS NOTHING WILL CHANGE. BY RELEASING WHAT’S NO LONGER WORKING FOR US NOW, WE CREATE THE SPACE FOR SOMETHING BETTER TO COME INTO OUR LIVES. DON'T TAKE THE THINGS THAT ARE LIMITING YOUR POTENTIAL INTO 2023.

Visualise this point a year from now where you didn't change anything. How does it feel to know you has a choice but you didn't take action?

Don't get me wrong, I totally understand It can be really difficult to let go of what we’re attached to, maybe what we think we're 'comfortable' with. But are you really at peace with your situation and life right now?

Sometimes it takes uncomfortable endings to create new beginnings and live the life we actually want. With a bit of effort, we can find the freedom, happiness and peace we’re looking for.

What if you looked back in a years time and saw that you took action? What if you made the choice to let go to build. How would it feel if you stopped letting fear to control you and you used it instead to power up? What does the view look like from the top?

There comes a point in everyone's life when it becomes clear that holding onto certain things no longer serves them. Letting go of unhealthy relationships with partners and 'friends' together with removing a mindset that limits your actions can be incredibly liberating.

In removing the things that no longer serve you, are making a conscious choice to move on. This can be truly terrifying, but it is often the best decision you can make. Your choice. On YOUR terms. By letting go of what is no longer serving you, you are opening yourself up to so many new possibilities and opportunities.

When do we know when it’s time to let go?

Everyone is different here. Honestly, sometimes it's about sitting with yourself quietly and listening to your gut instincts. Sometimes sitting quietly is a challenge in itself!

Ask yourself whether person/situation/thought in question is still serving you. If it’s no longer providing value or positive contributions to your life, then it may be time to let it go.

Consider how much attachment you have to what you believe may be holding you back. If you’re finding yourself feeling more attached than necessary, it might be because you’re holding on to something that isn’t good for you.

Think about how much effort you’re putting into maintaining whatever it is you’re trying to keep. If it is draining all your energy, it may be time to let go.

There may be consequences if we don't take action...

Negative emotions such as anger, frustration, and sadness can surface.

Your health can deteriorate when stress creeps in.

However we CAN release these negative emotions by letting go of what no longer serves us.

Strategies to help you release that which no longer serves you

If we start with staying still long enough to recognise where we are, we can move towards healing and growth.

It's my hope the following steps will help you to move into the New Year with renewed purpose and passion.

Learning to let go can be super challenging, but it's my belief through personal experience it can be so worth the effort. Be kind to yourself and take action. In the end, holding on to things that don’t serve you can be damaging both physically and emotionally.

Step 1: What is it that's stopping you from growing?

Identify the things that are holding you back. What are the thoughts, emotions, or situations that are keeping you trapped? Once you’ve identified what’s holding you back, you can start to let go of it.

Admit, honestly to yourself how much this thing has caused you to become unhappy. This awareness can help you to begin to move on.

Commit yourself to the task. Don't merely think about it, take ACTION and in so doing choose your future.

If we choose ourselves first, we say we are worthy of better, and greater happiness and peace. If we put ourselves at the top of the pile, it will filter down to all that is truly important in our world.

Step 2: Forgive both others and yourself

In order to let go of what no longer serves us we have to be willing to forgive others and ourselves.

We all have regrets. Maybe we said or did something that hurt someone deeply, or maybe we made a choice that had negative consequences. Whatever the case may be, holding onto these regrets can be incredibly toxic. Without letting go and forgiving, they will weigh us down emotionally.

It isn't always easy to forgive, but it is essential for our mental and emotional wellbeing and in so doing we can open up space for new experiences and relationships.

Step 3: Be grateful for the lessons

Despite the fact they not be serving you in the present, they can teach you valuable lessons for the future.

Looking at things as a lesson instead of a failure can help you let go of the things that no longer serve you.

Acknowledge all of our experiences, bad and good can make us stronger, wiser, and more emotionally intelligent if we let them.

Step 4: Be compassionate to yourself. Meet yourself where you're at

You’ve removed whatever is holding you back and now it’s time to recover a little.

Getting back on top can take some time, and that is absolutely ok.

Ensuring you take care of yourself and give your mind and body the time it needs before getting back out there is important. Being gentle with ourselves will allow for healing and lead to growth. We become better equipped to deal with whatever life throws at us and begin to thrive!

Step 5: Create and embark on a new vision

Creating a new vision can help us let go and move in the best direction.

In order to formulate our vision, start by asking the following questions:

• What do I want my life to look like today?

• What experiences would I love to have?

• What kind of people would I love to surround myself with and why?

• Who do I want to be?
  

Write down or even draw all the things you dream of for your future. Create a vision board and put it somewhere you can see it every day.

Here's an example of a template you could use, but remember this must be personal to you!

Remember that creating a new vision for ourselves can help us take the first step towards achieving our goals.

By visualising what we want to achieve, we can better focus our attention and energy on making our lives happier and healthier.

Then embark on that new journey you've envisioned for yourself. Any truly worthwhile adventure begins by leaving behind the old in order to explore new ideas and worlds.

It may well involve physically travelling to new places, if this is part of your vision, but it also requires letting go of familiar ideas and ways of thinking. This can be a scary proposition, particularly when we've held onto them for perhaps most of our lives, but it is often necessary in order to grow and evolve.

By embracing change and letting go of what no longer serves us, we can open ourselves up to new possibilities and experiences.

Step 6: Connect with new people to create real and powerful friendships

It’s natural to want to guard ourselves against the pain of the past once we've been burned, but if we never take the risk of letting new people into our lives, we’ll never be able to experience the joy of true connection.

It's scary to open ourselves up again after being hurt, but it's important to remember that not everyone is the same.

There are some truly good people in this world who are capable of love and respect. It's actually really useful to take a moment when cultivating these new connections to think about what it is you require from those whom you wish to surround yourself with. It might even be helpful to think about what you're no longer willing to put up with.

Step 7: It's not about the material

More money, a bigger house, a new car etc. will not eliminate all our problems.

You can’t buy peace of mind. Material possessions only serve to distract from problems at hand. If you want to thrive in life, the hard fact is eventually you will have to face the root cause(s) of your problems.

The good news is that you have the power to change/adapt your life for the better. You don’t need to wait for someone else to give you permission or for circumstances to line up perfectly. You can start making changes right now, however big or small.

Remember, letting go of what no longer serves us is an internal process.

Step 8: The universe will provide (if you take action)

Remember we are part of something bigger than ourselves.

Religious or not, believing in something bigger than yourself can help you to let go of what no longer serves you.

Ask for help and guidance and trust you are not alone in this journey.

Allow yourself to receive support, and introduce into your world the things that will serve you. Know that you deserve to live a life that serves you. Don't wait. Ask for it now!

There are people that can help you if you need it

It can be challenging to let go if you are unsure of what the future might hold. If you are struggling it is very important to talk to someone who can understand what you are going through. This can be a trusted friend or family member but often it helps to gain the assistance of someone who can be a little more objective such as a Coach or Therapist.

Look after yourself at this time. Taking care of your body will help you to feel better mentally and emotionally.

At Elementary Wellbeing we are fortunate to have a network of individuals that can help so please so reach out of you need assistance. If we can't help directly, we know someone who can.

Conclusion: If you want next year to be different, give yourself the freedom to let go. No more letting things slide. No more brushing under the carpet. Create the life you want and the peace you desire by taking action now!

I promise you (from one who knows), in the end, holding is usually more painful than letting go. Don't keep on carrying the bag of rubbish that holds you back. Why not lighten your load and give yourself the freedom to let go?

Reach out for support if you need it but, honestly I'm so excited for the life you're about to create! Make the commitment.

Much love

Leanne Hendry